A Happy Heart
Our school kids went to the skateboard park at the beach during the school holidays. They had the time of their lives! The best part is that I was sent feedback saying our kids were “the best behaved and happiest kids in the park”. Despite having 4 scooters/ skateboards to share between 13 children they played together and shared without any issues! My heart bursts with joy to get messages like this. Raising vulnerable children is a tough job that is only sustainable by the grace and love of our Father. He gives us daily strength and the wisdom to raise future mighty men and women after His own heart. Thank you Oxley Family for treating the kids to a great day out! We love and appreciate you all!
Imaginations Run Wild!
If we gave the kids half a chance they would choose dress up time as a daily activity. They dress up as characters from superheros to moms, dads and doctors. If one had to measure fun on a “noise-ometer” this activity would win hands down! Thanks to Richards Bay Primary for passing on items to us from your drama department! If you or your school has outfits to add to our collection, I know the kids will be ecstatic to have new choices!
Indoor Sports Party!
A sports themed birthday bash for a soccer and cricket enthusiast. The weather did not tow the line but that never put a dampener on the day! We are blessed to share the property with Solid Ground Church and get to use the youth centre for occassions such as this! Party treats and the most awesome soccer cake, lovingly provided by members of our community, made HIS day extra special. Thank you, you are all appreciated!
The Great Outdoors
iKhaya LikaBaba is situated in between farm lands just 8km from Empangeni. We are privileged to raise our kiddies in a home with wide open spaces with a farm like country feel that is still very close to amenities like medical care, great local schools, grocery stores, a short drive to the beach and a quick stroll to church on a Sunday.
Hello friends of iKhaya
This year has truly flown by! I actually cannot believe that it is time to start preparing for the 2020 school year! Seems illogical hey? But ths is a priority with 16 kids needing supplies. If you are keen to sponsor stationery and uniforms or our Christmas Drive please get in contact with me. Thank you to all who faithfully sow into the lives of our children. You are sowing in faith, along with us, with hope for the bright futures of the children. As we invest today for their harvest in years to come!
With love and blessings
from Loressa, kids and the caring iKhaya team iKhaya
Partnering with APCM, Germany
APCM is a German based organization that has partnered with iKhaya for many years. Through this partnership we have been blessed to host many young German volunteers who give a year of their lives to serve communities around the world. This month we welcomed Greta, Christina, Sarah and Hannah who will be with us until July2020. These young adults will knit themselves into our daily lives, both work-wise and socially, making South Africa their home. In this process we get to know and love them while they invest their time, energy and love into the lives of our staff and children. Their role at iKhaya is a huge help to us in running general errands, school trips, collecting and sorting groceries and being a part of our pre-school (kindergarten) program. Having 14 children at school and being home to 25 kids gets BUSY! If you meet them out and about, please connect with them!
As parents, we know that the concept of play is very important in a child's physical, mental and social development. It awakens their creativity, helps them come up with new ideas and allows them to interact with the environment and their peers. Play allows children to develop their imagination, dexterity, and physical, cognitive, and emotional strength. Play is important to healthy brain development. As they master their world, play helps children develop new competencies that lead to enhanced confidence and the resiliency they will need to face future challenges. Undirected play allows children to learn how to work in groups, to share, to negotiate, to resolve conflicts, and to learn self-advocacy skills. When play is allowed to be child driven, children practice decision-making skills, move at their own pace, discover their own areas of interest, and ultimately engage fully in the passions they wish to pursue. At iKhaya we ensure that the children are given opportunities to play freely as well as with adult input. We are blessed with wide open spaces, sports eqipment, jungle gyms and a big trampoline to give the kids loads of stimulation and exercise.
Congratulations and Celebrations!
We a have a teen in the house! Lulu is maturing and growing up so fast. It feels like she became a young lady in the blink of an eye! Lulu is gentle and caring and loves to love. She has a heart to serve and as a big sister in the home she is always ready to help the younger kids and staff around the home. For her birthday she had her hair braided and here she wears it with a smile! Lulu aspires to be a dancer or singer, but one thing I know for sure is that she will make a great mommy one day. Join us as we pray for her to continue to develop and walk into all God has in store for her.
A picture speaks a thousand words! Our home is always abuzz with chit chatter & singing, fun & games, dress-up, bike riding, play dough and more. We have 14 children in formal school which means lots of fetching and carrying and plenty homework! The preschoolers keep us on our toes as there is never a dull moment with a bunch of babies around! If you want to financially support our mission to make the lives of our kids full or get involved in other ways we would love to hear from you!
We are safe place, a haven, a home to previously vulnerablechildren. Here they call it home, feel at home, loved and cherished. We strive daily to not simply meet the basic needs of food, shelter, clothing, education and health of our children, but rather to provide a loving home environment that is filled with God’s love and guidance. Together with a caring and compassionate community we are able to make our home a true home, and nurture our kids to maturity. So here is a shout out to everyone who plays a part in making a difference for our children. Maybe you have never been personally thanked, but know that God sees you and it warms His heart and He will reward you.
With love and blessings
Loressa, kids and the careing iKhaya team
International Mandela Day
Jumping for Joy with Transnet this Mandela Day!
Transnet partnered with us to commemorate International Mandela Day. Not only did they arrange to replace the worn out trampoline mat, but they helped clear away piles of pavers that were temporarily stored in the old pit. They worked like machines and got the task done with a smile and loads of fun too! Our children are so enjoying the new trampoline… thanks you Transnet! The groceries you generously supplied us with are going a long way to fill many hungry bellies.
Our hearts overflowed with gratitude as we were showered with blessings by Air Products, Richards Bay Child and Family Car, in.code and the learners from Crossroads Teen Centre. Gifts, groceries, loads of fun playing soccer jumping on the new trampoline and a coding lesson by Terri of in.code and Scharnee from Dark White Creative for taking pics of the lesson. We are blown away once again by the energy and generosity poured out over our kids and our home. Thank you just seems so insignificant when trying to express our appreciation!
You Make a DIFFERENCE!
To express our gratitude to all who press in and meet a need in our lives, we hosted a light hearted social gathering for our sponsors, friends and partners to meet the children they support and to enjoy a little talent show of singing, dancing, music and a short play. The afternoon was very festive as the adults joined in with the singing and dancing too! These gatherings are an opportunity for our kids to shine as they grown in confidence on the simple stage.
Here is a testimony and a story of encouragement that reminds us to to keep doing what we do. Not every social case is a success story but our desire is to make a difference and our prayer is that each child would be touched and transformed as they experience the love of God through us. Luca’s life started out with us at iKhaya as an infant. He was quickly adpoted and knitted into a Godly family who love him and work with him daily as they strive for his complete healing and a bright future and brought him to visit us as part of his journey. He is a strapping young lad, full of energy and smiles! Eugéne, Tracy & Luca you filled our tanks with much joy!
Until We Meet Again…
Johanna, Luisa and Lea dedicated a year to a volunteer program through APCM in Germany. We had them for 11 months of their year, seving at iKhaya LikaBaba. They poured their time, energy and love into each and every day with us. Our children enjoy the fun times but also learn the art of making and growing new friendships while these young ladies invest into their lives through love, entertainment, companionship and general help. To us as staff their dedication and help lightens our daily load and enables us to spend more time investing into thefuture of our kids. We loave and appreciate you girls so very much and your presence is totally missed!
With love and greetings
Loressa, kids and team
Oxytocin is often referred to as the 'love hormone' because it's responsible for the love you feel when you spend time with your baby and that's why spending time with your baby makes you feel happy and the baby secure. Normally babies develop a close attachment bond with their main caregiver within the first months of life. If they are in a situation where they do not receive normal love and care, they cannot develop this close bond. The effect of not having this bond is problems with behaviour and in dealing with emotions and new situations. The end result of this is a set of difficulties which can affect the development of the child. This is known as attachment disorder.
There are two types of attachment disorder:
Reactive attachment disorder (RAD)
Children with this type of attachment disorder tend to be socially withdrawn. They do not interact much with their caregiver. They don't seek comfort when they are upset and they don't respond when comforted. They may be aggressive, or may be nervous and anxious. They may appear unhappy and may not grow and develop as well as they might otherwise do.
Disinhibited attachment disorder
This is also called disinhibited social engagement disorder (DSED). Children with this type of attachment disorder are excessively and inappropriately friendly towards people they don't know.
How is child attachment disorder treated?
The main treatment is to make sure they feel loved by their primary caregiver and know the relationship is secure. Once this is achieved, most signs of RAD improve very quickly. Children with DSED may continue to have the symptoms even after they are well cared for. Sometimes psychological therapy is used for the difficult behaviours that children with attachment disorder develop. Strategies which may be used include:
At iKhaya we have a number of youngsters who need therapy to deal with their past circumstances. Seeking therapy privately is our heart’s desire as making use of our local government facilities has proven to be ineffective mostly due to irregular appointments, not always seeing the same therapist and appointments often being 4-6 weeks apart. Our caregivers would greatly benefit from support training and psychotherapy too. Child and Youth Care Training for all caregivers and house mothers would be most beneficial.
How can you help?
Luisa’s family came to South Africa from Germany and payed us a visit. They arranged an evening of fun and fellowship where we all braaied sausages on sticks and cooked bread dough over the flames. It has been such a priviledge to get to know our three German volunteers, Luisa, Johanna and Lea) over the last 11 months and to meet their families is always a treat. For the children it is about the fun of being outdoors after dark, cooking their own food and huddling under blankets around the bonfire to keep warm. For us grown ups it is great to join in the kids’ fun and be a share their hearty enthusasim.
Our school going kids joined in on our routine morning playdough time during the June/ July school holidays. Here is proof that there is so much one can do with playdough to make the activity fun and interesting all while exercising those fine motor skills and stimulating the creative juices!
Life is good. Life is full. We are truly blessed!
Our school break was fun-filled. We had 2 girls attend One Conference Christian Camp in Pietermaritzburg. This was an iKhaya “first” as this camp is for grade 7 and up and we have only 2 that qualified to attend... At last! To say they were over the moon to would be a complete understatement! Thoriso, a student and volunteer at iKhaya, hosted a sports day. We invited friends and teen volunteers for a soccer morning and are already looking forawd to having another social sports day soon! The school kids visited Bounce and enjoyed a meal at Mc Donalds. In between all the planned activities the home was abuzz with chatter and laughter, singing and music, bike riding, running about, sliding on cardboard boxes, going for walks and eating fresh sugar cane. Life is good. Life is full. We are truly blessed!
Saint Catherine’s Pre-School Fun Day has become a highlight on our annual calendar. Debby Brink, HOD, and her team do an outstanding job at creating a day for young kids to simply have FUN. Our kids look forward to this adventure with great anticipation and come home having spent every last drop of energy. If your littlies have not attended this event then you better keep an eye out for it next year! Thank you Saints for spoiling our kiddies with such a FUN-tastic morning!
School Sports Day
What a special day! We have 10 learners at Empangeni Christian School and they all participated in the athletics day. It was especially fun for the pre-schoolers who got to do sack races and other fun races. The Blue and Red teams (Team Alpha and Team Omega) cheered their hearts out in support of their paticipating friends. We had a great time, thank you teachers for a lovely morning.
Once again our community has pulled together to reach out and bless those less fortunate than themselves. Our children were each gifted with an outfit, a toy, snacks and a pair of school shoes. My heart is over-joyed to witness these occassions where our children are touched and loved abundantly. iKhaya relies on the partnership of individuals, families, churches, small businesses and corporates to meet around 50% of our running costs, which include groceries, nappies and milk, school fees, uniforms and clothing, educational equipment and pre-school teacher, housing and utilities, transport, daily care (staffing is required 24/7/365) medical and psychological care and entertainment. We are blessed to be a part of a generous community that “gets it” and pours their love into our work. There is nothing too big or too small to make a change and lasting impact in the life of another. Thank you to each and every person who connects with us.
Dear friends of iKhaya
Thank you to our awesome community for your support. We are grateful to partner with so many who catch our heart to care for vulnerable children and to bring hope and healing to the lives we touch.
Loressa, kids and team