For some time now I have had a stirring in my spirit to make some adjustments to our home and the way we are raising our kids; all with the kids’ best interests at heart.
We strive to raise the children in our care with as normal a lifestyle as possible. To create a home environment that is safe and that the kids feel is their own space and to protect this home space from becoming institutionalized.
So for starters, our birthday parties have taken on a new look. We set a party up a party table of eats, decorations and some fun activities, which is a commonly seen party setup that our kids enjoy at their friends’ parties. We ask the birthday kids to invite friends from school and we invite guests known to the kids. The focus is on making the kids the centre of attention to feel loved and special. The aim of all this is to teach them to share, enjoy party snacks with the freedom to choose their treat without greed, good table manners as well as improving social skills and interactions and building family relationships within our home.
After much prayer, thought, strategizing and planning, we launched our new staff roster. The old had 15 kids being cared for by 8 caregivers who each worked 2 days and 2 nights per week. In essence the kids had 8 “moms”. Our new model sees these children split into 2 family units of 8 and 7 kiddies respectively. Each family has a caregiver filling the role as mom from Monday to Friday and another from Friday to Monday plus each has a caregiver/ domestic helper. This translates into the kids bonding with 2 mother figures instead of 8, which creates a platform for improved love bonds between mother and child, greater control over homework, discipline, medication, overall wellbeing and improved relationships within family units.
Feelings of abandonment and entitlement are common symptoms of children living in homes/ orphanages. Our long term goal is raising emotionally stable, mature teens that will be strong enough to face the big wide world as young adults. So while we seek to continue to invest in our relations with our sponsors and community at large, who play a vital role in sustaining the work we do, and with the children’s best interest in mind, we will adjust the way in which we interact while keeping the children’s environment safe and their home their own personal place, just as we do in our private homes as parents of our own biological kids.
Please pray with us all as we unfold these plans and trust God as He lights our way forward.
Psalm 119 v 105 “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.”
Happy Birthday Bo!
Princess Bo celebrated her 1st birthday this month. What a great time with family and friends. She had her first taste of cake, caught plenty bubbles with great enthusiasm and simply had loads of fun. She was the centre of attention as we sang to her and she just knew how special she is!
Croc on a Rock
The little dam is filling up with the lovely, most welcome, recent rains. The croc was spotted basking in the sun on the rock in the water so the kids set off on an adventure to spot that croc! Unfortunately the croc had already moved on. But the walk was a fun-filled time as the kids spent time with the volunteers.
Experiencing Life in the Real World
It’s always a treat to go on an outing! The town library is a great place to escape to the land of make believe and wonder! Story time is simply the best. A swing by the grocery shop for a life lesson and exposure to the real world and to get a sweet treat was the highlight of the trip. With little minds and bodies super exhausted as they saturated their brains with new knowledge the little tots dozed off in the car on the way home… Fun is hard work!
We have the most amazing home with gorgeous views, great playgrounds and plenty open space for our children to play, explore and exercise. Life is full of activity, fun and interactions with one another. We have a happy home and are truly blessed to be raising our children is such a beautiful environment.
iKhaya partners individuals, companies, organisations and schools to make our work a success. We invite you to join us to make a difference. If you would like to assist us financially or with goods or services, please contact us or make use of our baking details on our webpage.
With love Loressa, Staff and Kids
Roll on Summer...
We enjoy a mild winter in SA but it gets cold enough to avoid swimming and going to the beach for a few months. But spring arrived with the feel of summer this year! We have had a great time cooling off in tubs of water and have made a couple of trips to the beach and local pool with the troops too. Sea, sand and water make for the best and most inexpensive fun. It keeps the kids busy, entertained and happy for ages!
Making fun out of nothing at all…
Imagination is all one needs to create a game and loads of fun and laughter out of general household goodies! Who needs fancy toys, equipment and technology when you can turn a hosepipe into the best fun ever?
Growing up way too fast!
Our youngest child turns one next month. It is such a joy and privilege to watch her grow and be a part of her development. Babies seem to make progress daily right before ones eyes! This month we had the utter delight of witnessing her first steps. The excitement in the home was tangible as all the kids and staff gathered around to cheer her on with great enthusiasm! She is also joining the “big kids“ table to eat and play. The sheer pleasure on her face as she interacts with the others is so precious.
How old are you? I’m THREE!
Thando turned 3 and celebrated her birthday with her iKhaya family and a few friends. Just look at the anticiaption as everyone gathered around to watch her unwrap her gifts. A nail polish kit was a huge hit and she was hardly interested in anything after opening it up. A jumping castle is an all time favourite for the kids and much fun was had by everyone! Thank you to everyone who together made her day a memorable and enjoyable one.
Kristin arrived early in September to join her 3 counterparts, Priska, Kathleen and Ursula, from Germany for their 11 month stay at iKhaya. The 4 will serve as volunteers in various areas of the home. They are a huge help to us and a blessing to the kids especially as they get involved in various activities with them from games, homework, trips to school or the doctor, outings and general interactions on a day to day basis. Some of their duties include grocery stocking, cleaning, sorting clothes and food, baby stimulation, basic educational play, general errands, painting, assisting in the holiday program and babysitting. Our lives are richer for knowing you and our jobs made easier with all your help. We love and appreciate you!
Milk and Cookies
What a pleasure to enjoy the fruits of ones own labour! A few of the older kids enjoyed baking biscuits together and then enjoyed munching them along with a glass of cold milk. Yummy!!!
Civvies days are always a hit for us in SA as kids get to dress up instead of wearing their usual school uniforms to school. Springday is one of these occassions when they get to be bright and colourful.
Partnering With iKhaya LikaBaba
Teachers, Doctors, Psychologists, OT and Speech Therapists are some of the skills needed on a regular basis to meet the needs of our kiddos. If you have the expertise and are able to share some of your valuable time with us, then we would love to hear from you!
We currently have 12 school going aged children attending local schools for grade R to grade 5. As you may imagine, homework time is a real challenge especially seeing as some of our kids need extra one-on-one time to improve in reading and maths.
If you are a teacher or mom who would love to invest time in our homework centre, then we need you!
Our bank details are featured on our webpage and for BEE purposes receipts are issued if required. We confirm that the beneficiaries of all donations are natural persons where 100% are Black South African citizens as defined by the Broad Based Black Empowerment Act, 2003.
What better way to stimulate a boy‘s mind, increase concentration levels, improve hand eye coordination and fine motor skills than with real boys toys!? Thabiso gave our preschool boys their first wood work lesson this month. Hammers and nails, screws and screwdrivers and some scrap wood made for a perfect opportunity for the boys to learn while having the time of their lives! Soon these young lads will be making tables and chairs... watch this space!
Barbara introduced the children to a Polish traditional dish. They got to make their very own savoury Polish dumplings.
As you can see they had a blast making a floury mess while cooking up a storm. We most certainly have a few Master Chefs in the making here!
We had much to celebrate this month! Five kids enjoyed a birthday bash together. Cakes with candles, chips, sweets, a castle and gifts were the order of the day. But what makes a celebration the best is who we celebrate with... friends! Thanks to those who joined us to make our party so much fun! Together we make great memories. And a special thank you to our sponsors who make memories like this possible!
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Many teachers recognise that teaching with music and song makes learning effective and longlasting as it catches the childrens‘ interest and makes learning easier and more enjoyable. When you want to inspire your learners, take time to play an instument or turn on the boom box. If the songs appeal to the children, then they are more likely to have the songs running through their heads away from school too... this beats homework! Our littlies simply love singing, dancing
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With love and greetings, Loressa, Caregivers, Volunteers and Kiddos
AWOL (A Work Of Love) is an annual event where approximately 200 school going teenagers camp in Empangeni and make a difference in their community. Over the years, AWOL has invested 20 351 community service hours through a total of 838 teen campers. These teens will share God's love in the community of Empangeni, Richards Bay and surrounding areas by tackling various projects/outreaches that are organised and run by the local churches. iKhaya benefited from the these outreach projects. Teens washed windows, played games with kids and went on walks around the perimeter of our property. Loads of funs was had by teens, leaders and our kiddos.
Our Winter School holidays were 3 weeks. That means either 3 weeks of mischief or 3 weeks of fun and passive learning. We chose the latter! We ran an informal program that included crafts, sports, games, bike riding outdoor activities like walks and picnics too. The little kids need more supervision and as our older kids mature we see them taking on the role of leader and helper as they assist the toddlers with their crafts.
Jenny and Sarah arranged party games and treats to say goodbye to us all. Their 11 month stay simply flew by in the blink of an eye. We are already missing them dearly and the kids remain in contact via whatsapp calls. Technology in this instance is a blessing beyong measure.
Time to celebrate and share. 67 minutes to commemorate the 67 years Mandela spent as a freedom activist. Thanks to all the companies and staff who showered us with the much appreciated and needed groceries, cleaning materials, baby goodies and your time. Our bicycles had a service and some had an overhaul. What a full day of abundance and love. We are truly grateful.
Our driveway was taking strain from the bout of storms earlier this year. The surface was irregular and full of grooves caused from the errosion. Lafarge came to the rescue and graded the surface. What a difference it has made. Moffatt Optical provided two kids wearing glasses with free eye tests and brand new specs. Much to their delight the two youngsters were allowed to choose their own frames and are super proud of their new specs.
Sanlam Centre hosted us at the kids entertainment area too during the holidays. Our kids had such a blast and enjoyed getting out too. We are truly part of a great community who partner with us, making our task and role in raising the kids a whole lot easier.
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Greeting from us all at iKhaya!
With love and greetings