For some time now I have had a stirring in my spirit to make some adjustments to our home and the way we are raising our kids; all with the kids’ best interests at heart.
We strive to raise the children in our care with as normal a lifestyle as possible. To create a home environment that is safe and that the kids feel is their own space and to protect this home space from becoming institutionalized.
So for starters, our birthday parties have taken on a new look. We set a party up a party table of eats, decorations and some fun activities, which is a commonly seen party setup that our kids enjoy at their friends’ parties. We ask the birthday kids to invite friends from school and we invite guests known to the kids. The focus is on making the kids the centre of attention to feel loved and special. The aim of all this is to teach them to share, enjoy party snacks with the freedom to choose their treat without greed, good table manners as well as improving social skills and interactions and building family relationships within our home.
After much prayer, thought, strategizing and planning, we launched our new staff roster. The old had 15 kids being cared for by 8 caregivers who each worked 2 days and 2 nights per week. In essence the kids had 8 “moms”. Our new model sees these children split into 2 family units of 8 and 7 kiddies respectively. Each family has a caregiver filling the role as mom from Monday to Friday and another from Friday to Monday plus each has a caregiver/ domestic helper. This translates into the kids bonding with 2 mother figures instead of 8, which creates a platform for improved love bonds between mother and child, greater control over homework, discipline, medication, overall wellbeing and improved relationships within family units.
Feelings of abandonment and entitlement are common symptoms of children living in homes/ orphanages. Our long term goal is raising emotionally stable, mature teens that will be strong enough to face the big wide world as young adults. So while we seek to continue to invest in our relations with our sponsors and community at large, who play a vital role in sustaining the work we do, and with the children’s best interest in mind, we will adjust the way in which we interact while keeping the children’s environment safe and their home their own personal place, just as we do in our private homes as parents of our own biological kids.
Please pray with us all as we unfold these plans and trust God as He lights our way forward.
Psalm 119 v 105 “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.”
Happy Birthday Bo!
Princess Bo celebrated her 1st birthday this month. What a great time with family and friends. She had her first taste of cake, caught plenty bubbles with great enthusiasm and simply had loads of fun. She was the centre of attention as we sang to her and she just knew how special she is!
Croc on a Rock
The little dam is filling up with the lovely, most welcome, recent rains. The croc was spotted basking in the sun on the rock in the water so the kids set off on an adventure to spot that croc! Unfortunately the croc had already moved on. But the walk was a fun-filled time as the kids spent time with the volunteers.
Experiencing Life in the Real World
It’s always a treat to go on an outing! The town library is a great place to escape to the land of make believe and wonder! Story time is simply the best. A swing by the grocery shop for a life lesson and exposure to the real world and to get a sweet treat was the highlight of the trip. With little minds and bodies super exhausted as they saturated their brains with new knowledge the little tots dozed off in the car on the way home… Fun is hard work!
We have the most amazing home with gorgeous views, great playgrounds and plenty open space for our children to play, explore and exercise. Life is full of activity, fun and interactions with one another. We have a happy home and are truly blessed to be raising our children is such a beautiful environment.
iKhaya partners individuals, companies, organisations and schools to make our work a success. We invite you to join us to make a difference. If you would like to assist us financially or with goods or services, please contact us or make use of our baking details on our webpage.
With love Loressa, Staff and Kids